Why he says you’re Too Much… And How to be Loved instead
“You’re too emotional” “too sensitive” “too loud” “too boring” “too (whatever)”...
these are the words that many deep-feeling soulful women have heard at one point or the other in relationships
And this may have made you feel like something is wrong with you.
Like maybe you should “fix” yourself in order to be loved.
Or even worse, that you are just “too much”
and that you would never find someone who can handle that.
And I know that a part of your brain wants to blame him too.
That it’s his fault.
That he is the incapable one here, the one who needs to man up.
While that is partly true, realize that as long as you are blaming your triggers on someone else, you are refusing to look within, and therefore you cannot yet be free.
Because what’s really happening here is not that something is “wrong” with you.
Or that something is “wrong” with the other person.
It’s just that at one point you have learned that your needs are too much (for your parents/your caretakers/society).
And that if you want to be loved, you need to hold yourself back.
Which leads to holding yourself back when you meet people you’re attracted to. (and you don’t want to be rejected or abandoned).
And thus, you hear you’re “too much” when you’re years down the line, when those inner restraints are not there anymore, and your deepest desire comes out to be loved for YOU.
And to finally be loved for YOU is to own this part, and let it be seen, heard, and loved for who she is...
