Financial Peace for the Sensitive Overachiever: How to Let Go of Money Pressure
If you’re a sensitive, high-achieving woman, you probably didn’t just “fall into” your path. From a young age, you were aware, perhaps too aware of how the world measures your worth. You may have learned that praise comes from achievement, from results, from what you can earn. So you may have chased the grades, the promotions, the clients, and the numbers in your bank account. And you got good at it.
But somewhere along the way, you also probably learned that the same world that rewards your ambition can be quick to judge your softness… as in your ideas, your art, or your slower pace. Maybe you’ve been told that you’re “too much,” or “not enough,” or that your creative visions are impractical. Maybe you’ve absorbed the belief that your value is tied to how much you earn, and that anything less is failure.
So then, whether you’re running your own business or pouring yourself into a career, the stakes can feel even higher. Every dollar, every client, every project can feel like it says something about you. Even in moments meant for rest, you find your brain unable to switch off… running through the next launch, wondering how to keep momentum, worrying what people might think if you slow down.
And you tell yourself it’s not wrong to want money, because it isn’t. But if you’re reading this, and you’re longing for a softer, more peaceful way of living, you’ve probably also noticed… you’re getting tired. Tired of the inner tug-of-war where one part of you just wants to create, rest, or follow an inspired idea, while another part whispers, “But how does this make me money?” or “What will people think if I earn less?” You convince yourself that if you just hit that next income goal, prove yourself one more time, or earn other people’s approval, then you’ll finally exhale. Then you’ll be secure. Then you’ll be free.
But here’s the catch, my love. If you’ve been running on this treadmill long enough, you already know… the worry never actually stops. You hit one goal, and almost instantly there’s another one staring down at you. Another expense, another client to chase, another “what if” that keeps you awake. Even when you earn more, the bar rises with you too. Your lifestyle creeps up, your responsibilities grow, and now you’re not just living the dream…you’re chasing the ability to maintain it.
Throughout my coaching career, I’ve seen women with overflowing calendars and six-figure launches still lying awake at 2 a.m., phone in hand, refreshing their bank app or sales dashboard. It’s the same tight feeling in the chest, the same thought looping on repeat: “What if the leads aren’t flowing anymore? What if I can’t make it happen on time?” The mind whispers, “If I stop worrying, I’ll get lazy, and everything I’ve built will crumble.” And because worry is how you think you got here, you cling to it, even though it’s draining you dry.
And if you’re honest with yourself, my dear… like really honest…you know this isn’t the life you want to keep living. You don’t want your peace, your confidence, or your self-worth to rise and fall with your bank account. You don’t want to keep creating from a place of pressure, trying to prove your worth with every dollar amount you earn. You don’t want to keep worrying about whether one day you’ll financially have enough or not.
Not having financial peace is like being chased by an invisible tiger, always running to make sure that you’re ahead of it. And your soul… she’s tired. She doesn’t just want the pressure to pause for a day…she wants to be free from it for good.
I know this because I’ve lived it. When I went full-time into my business, my income was anything but steady. Some months brought a rush of inquiries and sales; others were a drought. And in those quiet months, my mind would spiral: “What if I run out of savings? Should I go back to a nine-to-five? Maybe pick up a side job just to be safe?”
At first, I treated every slow month like a personal failure. My self-worth and safety plummeted along with my revenue, and I told myself I couldn’t rest until the numbers bounced back. But over time, the exhaustion caught up with me. I got tired. Not just of the hustle, but of the way my entire sense of self and safety was hooked into my bank account.
Eventually, I stopped fighting it. I surrendered. I let go of the belief that my value and stability had to be proven through something outside of myself. And on the other side of that surrender, I found a deep financial peace that has stayed with me, no matter what my business is doing.
So this post isn’t about hustling harder or making more so you can finally relax. It’s not a pep talk about pushing through fear for the sake of financial freedom. I’m not a business coach nor financial advisor…But I’m someone who’s been in the grind, felt the pressure, and found a way to create from a place of softness and peace instead.
And when you finally find that peace, that’s when your work becomes lighter, my dear. When you start releasing the pressure around money, you feel more excited, more lit up, and work feels more like fun. And you start showing up…not from fear of “what if I don’t make it”...but from genuine love for what you’re building. And because you’re not fueled by pressure that only lasts a short term, what you now create has a more lasting impact, more depth, more sustainability.
You don’t want money. You want to feel safe.
When your mind is spinning about money, it’s almost never just the dollars you’re chasing. Yes, you want to pay your mortgage, cover payroll, or finally take that trip you’ve been dreaming about. But beneath all of that, what you’re really craving is safety.
It’s the kind of safety that lets you exhale without worries. The kind that says, “It’s okay to simply be…everything is taken care of.” It’s the confidence that even if there was a surprise bill, or the sales are slow this month– you will be okay, and I mean deeply okay…. It’s a sense that something bigger than you is holding you, guiding you, protecting you.
The good news is, this sense of safety is the truth of what is… It is the truth of God/ Reality/ Universe. But the bad news is, many people think this safety comes alone from money, which ends up making us clutch onto it tighter and therefore makes it hard to receive… It’s like clinging onto a lover so hard that they end up leaving because they sense ‘desperation vibes.’
Not only that, when money is the only source of safety, it can feel like the future is always uncertain (and scary). This is the reason why no matter how much you earn, even if you have six figures in the bank, or a waitlist full of clients… you can still feel quietly anxious because your mind still doesn’t feel safe around the future. I know it because I’ve been there.
When I first stepped into running my business full-time, I thought freedom would feel like joy, flow, and momentum. But even with TWO years’ worth of savings and a husband covering our housing expenses, my mind was on high alert. It’s like having a ticking timebomb at the back of my mind, like if the money ever ran out, I would be “dead.” And that constant pressure was affecting the way I work.
Like for example, I’d get on sales calls and freeze, afraid to fully speak my truth in case I “lost the sale.” With that, my creative ideas were also blocked and every time I’d write content I would hesitate…because I was afraid it wouldn’t “convert”... therefore making me blocked with receiving– not only in terms of money but also ideas, creativity, truth etc. And that makes total sense because when your nervous system is in survival mode, it’s nearly impossible to create, lead, or serve from your inner wisdom.
And looking back, I saw that the lack of safety around came from my childhood wounds where I learnt to have fears around money (and the lack thereof).. I remember my dad, his voice raised, telling me that if I didn’t get good grades, our “ship would sink.” (in Burmese language meaning going homeless). Pressure, panic and pain of poverty flickered in his eyes. And from there on, my mind learned to absorb his fears around money. And without realizing it, I began tying my worth, safety, and belonging to whether I could “keep the ship afloat.”
No wonder the strategies I invested thousands in never truly landed. No matter what business tips I implemented, nothing moved. Because money always felt like a moving target…something I had to grip tighter, chase harder.
And it wasn’t until I began healing that root wound…learning to feel safe even when the numbers weren’t perfect… that everything shifted. My nervous system could finally relax, could finally open up for more. There I could create again, receive without gripping, and let my work flow without the shadow of “what if it’s not enough?”
And that’s why before we talk about scaling, strategies, or even manifesting more money… we have to talk about safety. Because only when we feel safe in our bodies can we truly receive not from fear, but based on truth.
2. You don’t have to struggle to receive money
For so many of us, especially women who’ve been praised for our drive, there’s an unspoken rule we’ve lived by: money only comes if you work for it… and the work has to feel hard.
And perhaps that came from when you were young, when the gold stars only came when you pushed yourself beyond your limits. The praise rolled in when you went “above and beyond.” Over time, achievement became not just how you earned money, but how you earned love, worth, and safety. So when you stepped into your career, or even your dream business, you carried that same survival strategy: you have to sacrifice yourself in order to receive.
The trouble is, when you see work purely as a means to an end, your heart starts to slip out of the process. You stop creating from a place of service or joy, and start seeing every hour, every launch, every client interaction as something you have to endure in order to “get the prize.” Your relationship with money becomes transactional: you give your energy, your time, your peace… and in exchange, you get just enough safety to keep going.
And even if you’ve “escaped” the corporate grind by building a business around your passion, you’ve probably noticed: if the struggle mindset hasn’t been healed, it just follows you into your new role. Your business might be more flexible, but if a slow month sends you spiraling into fears of having to crawl back to a 9–5, that’s you still not having financial peace. This is because the fear of the “struggle” is still intact, which was what happened to me.
Which is why what I’ve learned is that real financial peace isn’t just about doing what you love. It’s about loving the way you receive. It’s about meeting money with softness instead of strain. For me, that shift happened when I realized I could be at peace no matter what the “title” was…whether I was the CEO of my own company or serving lattes at a café. I could handle the uncomfortable moments…a boss’s criticism, a slow month, a surprise bill…with the same heart of a lotus. Because my peace wasn’t in the paycheck. It was in me.
From that place, my business stopped being a machine I had to keep feeding to avoid going back to something I hated. It became a place I could serve generously, create freely, and receive without gripping. When you release the struggle as a prerequisite for earning, money stops being the carrot at the end of a stick. And becomes a natural outcome of the value you create.
3.You Are More Abundant Than Money
The final point I want to make here is that when we don’t feel financial peace, it’s because we’ve learned to give money more power than we give ourselves.
Sure, money can get you cars, houses, a wardrobe full of designer pieces… and yes, money can bring many things. But do you know what is even more abundant?
You.
You, my love, are even more rare and precious. Money can be printed endlessly, but there is only one you in this entire world. No one else has your softness, your sensitivity, your voice, your creativity, your essence. You are a cosmic diamond… the only one of your kind in the Universe. And that alone shows how infinitely valuable you are.
Yet, when we get caught up worrying about money, it’s because we’ve forgotten who we are. We forget that we are the source of abundance, not money. We forget that the one who created all of life– and therefore all abundance— call it God, Universe, the Creator, also created you. And his abundance is part of you, inseparable, and can never leave you.
This isn’t just feel good philosophy. You can see it for yourself when you take a moment… and imagine in your mind’s eye… a swan. Give her a crown and let her glide on water… and there you will see her coming to form. This is just an example of how you are able to create anything out of nothing my dear. And just like that everything in the world… from cars, to houses, to pens exists because a mind imagined it. And that mind is a form of abundance part of the whole, Universal abundance that creates all things.
Yet, most of us worry about money because we think that money is the source– that it what creates things. When the truth is, the Creator that lives in YOU is what creates everything. In other words, your awareness is what is creating every moment (as in the meaning you give to what you are feeling). Yet when we worry and create thoughts of not enoughness, that’s also what we are creating more of! And no wonder we experience more of that!
The truth my dear is, as with everything in life, you are always abundant in something. Just like Bashar channeled through Darryl Anker said, you are either abundant in “lack” or abundant in abundance. The choice is always yours.
