How to Manifest Love When You’re Tired of Trying So Hard

Love is a part of who you are, my dear.

Just like light that makes the sun and water that makes the ocean, love is an inseparable part of who you are. 

Yet, as a society, we’ve been brainwashed to believe that love is somewhere “far away”… 

From Hollywood movies to social media, we’ve been led to believe that we can ONLY receive love when you find your soulmate or get married. 

When the truth is, love is always available, abundant, and accessible. You can never run out of love nor can be separate from love. You are unconditionally loved and are eternally loved. 

Now before you think, “well I don’t need to hear these feel-good words; just tell me how to find my soulmate,” I want to gently suggest that this intense search for “the one” may actually be blocking you from finding true love, my dear. 

And I don’t just mean love from a partner, but love from life itself (call it God/Universe). 

And you’ll know if that is true if this resonates: 

• You’ve put a lot of work into healing, manifestation, or self-improvement, but feel like you’re never quite “fixed” enough. 

• You’ve been trying to manifest a soulmate relationship yet, the positive affirmations and the happiness “highs” from visualizing your married, happily-ever-after love life doesn’t last all.

• You’ve searched for love advice and strategies all across the internet, consulted psychics, or may have even invested in coaching programs, yet love still feels out of reach. 

• You have manifested relationships, but they turn out to be flings, holiday romance, or on-and-offs. What you really want is lasting, peaceful relationship— deep, intimate partnership. 

• You are actually getting tired of worrying, striving, and overthinking to find love because you know that there’s more to life than worrying about when you will meet your soulmate day in and out…

If so, know that you actually don’t have to carry so much of this burden, my dear…

There is a way of life where you can receive love (manifest love) with no effort nor doubt from your part. There is a way of life where you feel loved, intimately and permanently as you are.

Which as a consequence, naturally leads to changes in your external conditions like calling in a divine union marriage and such.

And from having lived this experience myself– from feeling unwanted and “dumped” in my relationships to now receiving love in every direction of my life (i.e. from marriage, friends, and beyond), I thought I would share here with you how. 

Release the striver

When it comes to love, it’s common for women who grew up in the achievement / self-help world — to think that true love has to be “earned” in order to receive it. 

This looks like thinking that if you put in x amount of work (either toward your own healing or to do the work for others), then you should get the relationship you want in y time.

Or thinking that if you act like so and so and try to be “magnetic,” then you should manifest the commitment you desire.

Or thinking that if you just wait long enough, they will change and turn around.

But it is this transactional, this-equals-that type of mentality is what makes love harder than it should be, my dear. 

Because when you’re living under a transactional approach to love, you’re living under the belief that you don’t deserve love without any “doing.”

Instead, you have to earn it, or fix it, or be the one who makes it happen. You’re living under the belief that unless you are the one who puts effort, you will be left behind or wouldn’t be worthy of love. 

And so, all that does is confirm the belief that you can’t receive love as you are now. Because there is so much you have to “earn” and “work for” which can almost seem impossible. 

This looks like experiencing relationships where men are not taking responsibility to move the relationship further or are blaming you for who you are. It can look like attracting relationships where you have to be the figure-outer, the initiator, the problem-solver. Or even “begging” them to be with you.

And overtime this pattern only ends up exhausting you with the belief that true love is hard to find.  

When the truth is, manifesting love doesn’t have to be a struggle. 

The only reason why love feels “hard” is because of the false belief that love cannot be there unless you “earn” it or “do” something about it.

Maybe you have had a childhood where love from your parents wasn't easily accessible—unless you please them, earn their love through achievements, or follow exactly what they wanted. Or maybe you got the belief from society that if you don’t try hard enough, they would criticize/judge you (which equals you not being worthy of love).

Yet, this only ends up creating the pattern of not being able to receive whole, perfect love. 

And to release this false belief, it’s important to pull back the little “doer” who feels like she needs to do something in order to receive. Because this little “doer” cannot receive love as she is. She thinks she can only find true love when she does enough…

And when you let her rest, you will see that under the need to “do” things are the unmet needs of your little girl is hurting... In fact, these unmet needs are what have been blocking you from readily accessing love.

And to do that, a question you can ask is:

if you don’t “try” to find love, what shows up?

Perhaps you may experience fears about the future, like “what if I never find my person” or “what if I end up alone.”

Or maybe you experience feelings of shame like being “worthless” or “unvaluable” because you don’t have the #relationshipgoals that other people post on social media.

Or maybe you feel anger or resentment toward men who couldn’t love you. 

Yet, with whatever feelings that come up, it’s important to tend to them instead of by-passing by trying to manifest your soulmate (aka “the one”).

Because when you are overthinking on issues like… “How do I find my soulmate asap?,” or “when will I find my soulmate?” all it does is shove this deeper pain that exists deep down and postpone the love you are desiring by believing: “I can’t have love until I meet him".”

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When actually, what you are wanting the most is to be loved, not later but NOW.

What you are wanting the most is to be held, seen, and supported, not later but NOW.

Yet, when you are striving for love (and finally find your soulmate), all it does is to confirm the reality that you can’t have the love you desire YET.

And no wonder, the relationships you call in also reflect that belief about reality— i.e. that you can’t have what you want YET.

Such as, the kind of relationships the makes you question whether you’re asking “too much,” wanting “too much,” needing “too much.” Or relationships that feel distant or one-sided even though you’re putting in so much effort from your part.

Which leads onto my next point, which is: 

Move from lack to complete

When you sit in more with simply receiving (instead of “doing” and striving for love), the other pattern you may notice is the feeling of internal deprivation that comes up.

This can look like a feeling of emptiness, like something is still “missing,” “lacking,” or “not enough” in your life.

And that until you find your soulmate relationship or get married, you still can’t be happy or be at peace... 

And many women try to run away from this void, thinking that people/ circumstances outside of you can fulfill that. And ironically, it only ends up creating more of this inner “lack”…

In fact, this is what a lot of manifestation teachings out there do not talk about, which is that if you are trying to manifest from a place of “lack” (i.e. the void), you will still not receive the fullness of the true love that you’r looking for.

Which again, can look like still not finding your soulmate despite putting in so much you put into affirmations and healing work.

Or even after getting into a relationship, encountering commitment problems, communication problems, trust issues, or other issues that make you feel even more of this “lack.” 

This is because you manifest NOT what you do but what you are, my dear. That means as long as you still believe that you are “lacking,” life will bring up situations that reflect that you lack what you desire. 

It’s like trying to find fish in the desert. As long as you are living in the desert (i.e. a state of being that is in “lack” where love is far away), it will be hard to find fish (i.e. the soulmate love and the unconditional love you truly desire). 

The cycle of manifesting love from a place of “needing” and therefore not having

So the key to receiving love all comes down to shifting how you feel about yourself (even without a partner). That means, finding peace where you are. Being in love with who you are. Feeling complete as you are. Like in the diagram below…

The state of fullness where you arrive to love in the present moment

However, to that, your mind may respond “I’m tired of loving myself. I just want to find someone who can love me.”

If so, know that this part of you that is tired of loving you is the one that needs love my dear. 

So in essence, to feel whole and complete is to love each and every part about the Self. And that means loving not just the pretty, put-together, married self but also the ugly, the bad, the single woman version of yourself. 

And you will see that the only reason why you felt “lack” or “incomplete” in the first place (and are calling in relationships that reflect this state) is because there are parts that are abandoned, rejected and ignored by You inside.

More specifically they were unloved by the masculine while leads onto my final point that is… 

Come home to the masculine within

When you are looking for love, what you are actually looking for is a sense of inner harmony, particularly between the masculine and feminine.

That is, a sense of peace, balance, and unity between the masculine (i.e. the “provider”/ “giver”), and the feminine (i.e. the “attractor”/“receiver”). 

All of us have these two energies inside of us.

But for many women who experience dissatisfaction when it comes to love life, what I’ve noticed is that the masculine energy is either wounded, lacking, or missing inside. 

This can look like: 

• Feeling unsafe around your partner. Feeling like you are walking on eggshells as you have to “watch out” on what he says, thinks, or does in response to you, with the fear that he may not like you or leave you if you do the “wrong” move. 

• Or feeling like you are “too much” and that he just can’t handle all of you. And because you feel the need to be seen by him even for your too-muchness, it can lead to behaviors that show clinginess and neediness. 

• Nor believe that you can find someone good enough for you. Feeling like all the “good men” are taken and there’s none left for you. And so you may settle for less than your desires, instead of true love that nourishes your heart. 

• Or feeling like your partner has a higher authority like they are “superior” than you. You may feel like they are the ones who get the say and you are only there to please or take care of him. 

• Nor being able to trust anyone. Whether that is, finding difficulty trusting that the right partner will come into your life or trusting your partner on his actions/words/behavior. Or attracting men that are unreliable altogether. 

If you find yourself in any of these scenarios, know that they are NOT because you are not worthy of love nor because you are “broken” my dear. Rather, they are only happening because the inner feminine (i.e. your body) doesn’t feel safe receiving from your own inner masculine (i.e. the mind)— and so believe that a safe, healthy, grounded, emotionally intelligent masculine exists.

Which is also the reason why simply wishing and merely hoping to meet your soulmate love to arrive one day is not the answer to receiving love. Rather, it’s about learning to fulfill yourself through your OWN inner masculine and rewiring the way your body feels around the masculine.

By doing so, you are creating an inner marriage— a holy matrimony between the masculine and feminine, INSIDE of you. And when both parts of you are fully nourished and fulfilled, that’s when relationships with the outer world (such as with men) become easy, effortless, and feels complete too.

Because after all, everything outside of you is exactly reflecting that which is happening inside of you.

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The beauty of embodying all of this is that yes, you attract fulfilling relationships (that are even better) than what you asked for, but also, you DON’T have to be tired, trying to manifest love anymore. 

Like for me, tbh, I never have to question why I don’t have the love that I desire or question its presence anymore.

Because the truth is, you can experience love at all times— after all, love is the deepest fabric of existence/ reality. Like for me, for example, I don’t just feel loved by my husband, or friends, but also by all things and beings in this Universe (even from a tree by the side of a road!). And it’s not because I “tried” manifesting soulmate love, but because I connected to the love that’s in me— that’s bigger than it all…

And I believe that this experience of perfect love is available to you too my dear, because love is the truth of who you are. You are loved at all times, by God/ life/ Universe. True love never leaves you, and neither does the Self/ God/ Universe.

And when you realize this, receiving love from men (in relationships/ romantic partners) simply become a natural side effect of the one true love in you that’s overflowing…

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