Anxious in dating? Here's how the Universe ends it

There is nothing to be anxious about when it comes to love, when it comes to dating, when it comes to new relationships. You do not need to be worried about anything. You do not need to be anxious about anything. But your mind may convince you otherwise.

Your mind may make you think that you need to figure everything out. You may start to overthink, feel nervous, and become anxious around the person because you fear making the wrong move. You might worry about what to say or do, or fear that if you mess up, they will not like you anymore. You might think that if you say the wrong thing or act a certain way, everything will fall apart.

This kind of mind, this anxiety, can make you feel as though love is a test or an exam. It might seem as if love is something limited, something you only get a few chances at. It can feel as though if you lose that opportunity with someone you really like, then you may never get another one.

Your mind begins to see reality through the lens of scarcity. It makes you believe that good men are very rare or that the people you are attracted to are hard to find. It convinces you that the people who like you back are rare. It makes love seem like a scarce resource that you must desperately hold onto before it slips away.

But the truth is that love is all there is. Love is the only thing that exists. The universe itself exists for love. Can you sit into that? Can you rest in the perfection of that truth? Everything exists for you. Even the grass and the clovers beneath your feet. Yes, they exist for you. I exist for you. The trees above, the sun shining, the moon in the sky — all of it exists for you.

So why do you believe that your chance of meeting someone or being with someone is so scarce? Why do you think there are very few people who will love you or who are a match for you?

When you are feeling anxious, it is only because your mind believes you have something to lose. The mind thinks that if you do not act the right way, you will lose their love, their attention, or their interest. It creates a story that you need to perform perfectly or else you will fail.

The truth is that when you try to micromanage or control your interactions, it actually becomes harder for you to receive love. When you are anxious, you tend to fumble for words or overthink what to say next. You might be following a mental script of what you think you should say or do to impress the other person.

Because you are trying to control the situation, you do not feel loved just as you are. Instead, you feel like you must perform or act in a certain way, which only perpetuates your anxiety. It might give you a temporary relief, thinking at least I got their attention or interest, but it does not create genuine connection.

Even if you are in a committed relationship or marriage, this anxiety can continue to make you feel like you have to keep doing the right thing to win their love or keep their interest.

The core truth is that if you truly want to be loved, it is about allowing yourself to be you. It is not about controlling or micromanaging the situation. It is about simply being you. It is about expressing your authentic self, your truth. It is about being fully yourself without trying to fit into some limited idea of what you think love should look like.

You do not need to be anyone else or fit into a box that says only if I am pretty, popular, or perfect, then I can be loved. The real truth is that as long as you are trying to fit into that box, you can never truly be loved for who you are. Because love is not about trying. Love is about being.

This is why when clients come to me to shift their love life, the most powerful transformation they experience is not in trying to find someone or fix something outside. It is in becoming fully themselves.

The question is: are you fully you? Because only when you are truly yourself, can the right person see you, connect with you, and be with you. The answer is as simple as that.

It all comes down to your being. And a key way to heal your dating anxiety is to loosen your grip on how you think you need to get love. Instead, rest in the knowledge that you are already loved. Everything in the universe is here for you. Love is already present in every moment.

When the right person shows up, it is simply an extension of the universe’s love for you. You do not need to figure out how to attract love or control the timing. It is about becoming you. It is about allowing yourself to be you, knowing who you are, and expressing your truth.

When you are truly yourself, you realize that nobody outside of you can give you what you do not already have. You may feel anxious because you think that other person will finally give you what you lack. But the truth is, you are the source of love. You are the creator of your experience.

You never have to look outside yourself to find love or to feel complete. Your inner state is the real source of your experience. When you rest in your own love and worth, your anxiety begins to dissolve.

Because anxiety is looking for love in the wrong places. It is trying to change reality by controlling what is outside of you. But the truth, my love, is that the source of all life and love is within you.

To truly have peace in your love life, you must move from the inside out. You must listen to what is within and trust that everything is already perfect.

The biggest creation happening right now is inside of you. That creation is love. That love is already here.

If you resonate with this and want to learn how to overcome dating anxiety, I invite you to book a free session with me. Together, we can explore the inner shifts needed to transform your relationship to love and dating. The link is in the description box below.

Remember, love is always available for you when you are willing to be yourself and trust in the perfection of what already is.