How to make a man fall in love with you forever (It's not what you think)

You don’t need to try to be the perfect girlfriend, the perfect partner, or the perfect wife. In fact, when you’re focused on trying to be the perfect person for him, it actually blocks him from fully seeing you, from fully connecting with you, and therefore from fully loving you.

In this post, we’re talking about what makes a man fall in love with you forever. And I want to clarify this is not just some dark psychology manipulation tactic. Because all the tactics and strategies you might think will make him fall in love are not true to who you are. And if they are not true to who you are, they cannot ignite the truth of who he is. The truth of who he is is love. Being capable of love, being able to give love to you. And it is only when you are in your truth that you can inspire him to also be in his truth, to become love. To become the love that he actually is.

That is the reason why some dark manipulation tactics, some tricks you are trying to figure out in order to win him over, are not going to work. Because it is not just about trying to get his love. It is actually about becoming who you really are. Because love, at its core, is about authenticity.

Hello, my beauties. Welcome to the channel. My name is Chen, and I serve women who desire peaceful love in their relationships and in their reality. And in this video, we are talking about what makes a man interested or what makes a man fall in love with you forever. Not just interested, because I have seen out there and the mistake I see many women making, which I also used to make myself, is where you focus on the wrong things in order to make him interested. You are trying to figure out how to make him interested and you are focusing on the wrong things. Those wrong things include trying to put on a facade, trying to put on a persona, trying to figure out what would make him fall in love.

In fact, trying to figure out what to make him fall in love with, how to make him fall in love, is actually preventing him from actually falling in love. It is preventing him from being in love because whenever you are trying to figure out the way to make him interested, the way to make him fall in love, what you are doing is that you are focused on building this persona, this facade of who you should be in order to get his love, in order to earn his love.

So you may focus on the wrong things. And these wrong things look like focusing on your looks, thinking that if you just have the perfect makeup or have the perfect glow up your body or your face or transform, do this plastic surgery or whatever that is. If you think that if only you are hotter, if only you are sexier, if only you are more charming, then he would love you more. This is a woman mistake that many women commonly make. And the thing is that when you think that is the way to make him fall in love, you will be afraid of unmasking yourself.

You will be afraid that he might see your flaws. You may be afraid that he might see your pores, your imperfections. I have even seen women who are like, "I am not going to let him sleep with me or let him see me without makeup because I don’t want him to see my natural look or the part of me who is imperfect." And in fact, this is the thing that is blocking him from actually falling in love and being in love.

Similarly, many other women focus on these again the wrong things which are the external persona of who you should be. So you focus on things like how you should act. Maybe you should act more girly, act more flirtatious, act more seductive, act more like a high-value woman. So you are trying to again manipulate his love, trying to control how you embody, trying to control how you act.

But the thing is, he cannot love you if you are in your mask. If you are wearing your mask, he cannot truly see you. He cannot fully connect with you and you will not feel connected either, neither to yourself nor to him. Instead, you will be thinking that, "Oh, if I just do this flirtatious look or act flirty around other men, then he is going to be interested." Only if I keep my options open then he is going to be interested, right?

Again, this may make him interested at first, for a short time, but for the long term — thinking about years and years to come — all these tactics, tricks, and manipulation strategies are not going to last. When you become 50 or 70 years old, growing old together with him, all these superficial tricks are not going to sustain the relationship.

We all are human. You are going to have days when you just want to scream, cry, or express whatever you’re feeling. If you think that you have to be this seductive woman, act a certain way, to make him interested, then it’s not going to last. The relationship is not going to last either because the way in which you made him interested was not authentic in the first place.

And the same applies to what makes him fall in love — it’s not about communication, it’s not about the perfect way you phrase things, it’s not about the perfect text message that you send to him. I know that the internet obsesses over these external measures. Many women focus on these external tools and tactics that will supposedly make him interested.

But yes, it may make him interested initially. But love is different. Because love is about becoming. It’s about both of you becoming more of who you are. It’s about both of you remembering your truth, your essence. And when you’re in your truth, you inspire him to be in his truth and to become love himself.

This is the reason why some women attract superficial interest but not lasting love. Because love is not just about fleeting chemistry or external attraction. It’s about a deeper connection. And that deeper connection happens when you are true to yourself.

What makes a man fall in love with you more than anything else, more than these external personas, is about you becoming fully you. It’s not about trying to be someone else or a ‘better’ version of yourself. It’s about owning who you are.

And what does that mean? When you become fully you, it means you are being whole and complete within yourself. It means you owning your personality, your quirks, your flaws. For example, in my marriage, I have a side of me that can speak in a childish way, like a three-year-old. I don’t always show this side publicly, but I let that out with my husband. I own that part of me.

I am not afraid of acting like a little girl or a child. In fact, that invites him to be who he is as well. Because I am being who I am, that allows him to also be who he is. He gets to be himself, unmasked, without hesitation.

If you are silly, boring, or imperfect, you can be all of that. Because your relationship should be a sacred space where both of you fully get to be yourselves. When you own your real self, your partner gets to do the same.

And when he says that he is in love with you, it’s not just about loving you. It’s about loving who he is when he is with you. Because you allow him to be himself. That mutual authenticity is where love naturally forms.

It’s not about forcing, manipulating, or controlling. It’s about being. About discovering and embracing your true self. And when you do that, love can flourish effortlessly.

So, what does all this mean for your relationship? It means that the key to making him fall in love with you forever is not about focusing on him or trying to manipulate his feelings. It’s about you becoming more of who you truly are. It’s about feeling whole and complete within yourself.

Because when you’re connected to your truth, you do not dim your light or repress your power. You give love to yourself fully, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. You take responsibility for your feelings and your inner world.

Ultimately, no one outside of you can give you what you do not already hold within. Your partner, your relationship, your man is not here to complete you. He is here to help you become more aware, more conscious, and more fulfilled in who you are.

Much love.